As many of you know, Resonate’s reputation is growing rapidly on a national level as we continue to provide resources and facilitate conversations on the Issues Associated with Aging.
In addition to many of you, I, too, have served in the roles of caregiver and advocates for aging parents. I understand the stress, heartache, fatigue, and joy that often accompany these necessary roles.
I recently saw some very practical “Caregiving Tips” in the November issue of AARP.
- “Now which key is it?” When someone has difficulty sorting through the choices of keys (s) he owns, use nail polish to distinguish them. Also, keep the number of keys to a minimum.
- “Remember sponge rollers?” In addition to proving a cushion for sleeping, they can also be used to push onto items such as pens, toothbrushes, and silverware to create an easy grip.
- “I broke another glass today.” Consider substituting plastic for glass. Alternatively, place four to five ordinary rubber bands around a glass for easy gripping.
Now let’s focus on you… the advocate and/or caregiver.
These roles can be very stressful…especially because we so often feel inadequate or unprepared. It is crucial for you to manage the stress before it manages you. Here are some suggestions from the Brandywine Senior Living website:
- Know your stress triggers. Create a plan ahead of time regarding what you need to do when you feel these triggers activate.
- Attend a local support group specific to the situation with which you are dealing.
- Ask for help. To whom can you delegate or with whom can you share some of the load?
- Keep a journal. The simple act of writing to express your feelings is a wonderful outlet for stress.
- What actually needs to be done today, and what can wait?
- Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically. Consider respite stays, schedule massages, stay as flexible as possible, practice forgiveness.
- Find answers to your financial questions. Oftentimes, finances are major source of stress. Having a plan for how best to use existing assets, navigating the world of long term care, and medical insurance can relieve much of that stress.
The Resonate team offers resources in each of the seven areas above.
We look forward to hearing from you, so that we can create a framework of support for you and your loved ones.
Barbara A. Culver
CFP®, ChFC®, CLU, AEP®